The following was written and posted on Facebook by my fellow marketer Mr. Bill Hugall. June 12, 2019. It helped me open my eyes and hopefully it will help you too. Enjoy!
***This is the most important post I’ll ever make. It may be a tad bit long, but it will be worth it.
The question that ALWAYS gets asked is this. “What is the one thing you would tell someone who is new or starting out or struggling?”
The answer is so simply complex it ridiculous. It has nothing to do with money or systems. It has nothing to do with traffic and it sure as shit isn’t a hack of any kind.
I know this works because everyone who has ever taken the time to listen to it and apply it has ALWAYS come back to thank me. 99.99999999% of people will glaze over this and not have a clue how IMPORTANT it is.
If you are finding any resistance to the goals you are trying to accomplish, the application of what I’m about to lay out is the magic pill you’ve been looking for, but chances are you will think I’m kidding or that this isn’t truly it, but it is.
This has solved so many problems for people. It has solved weight-loss issues, business plateau’s, relationship issues, and any other kind of issue you can imagine.
So what is it?
You need to start telling yourself a different story and then live it into fruition. Sounds simple right?
Here’s the thing. Your story is so deeply ingrained in your life that you don’t even know you are telling yourself this tale all day long. It’s in the way you speak, it’s in the way you treat other people. It’s in the criticism you lay on other people. It’s in your living life wardrobe (not work stuff).
The thing about your story is that it doesn’t even matter if you have money. Often times you’ll just have more money but continue to struggle with other things that bring true abundance (Yeah I just said abundance) because your story creates sub stories that you carry with you to ensure your self imposed limitations are met in all areas of your life.
The clearest example I can think of are people at the gym. Newbies always come in in some very rugged looking gear. Even if it’s nice stuff it just looks rugged because of the story. IF you’ve seen this happen you’ll know what I mean. As time passes they begin to wear things that make them feel more confident. The confidence RARELY exceeds the outfit.
What’s happening is their old story is being smashed away day by day, step by step and little by little. They begin talking to more people, they begin looking others in the eye and the clothes they wear to the gym are different.
They made a decision to change the story and then live it! I know this sounds like it’s about what you wear, but it’s not. Clothing however is a huge tell. This doesn’t mean you have to go break the bank, but you should be wearing things that the person you want to be would wear. Even if it’s from Value Village…. you have to start living it asap. If you want to feel more successful… that undershirt with the mustard stain and sweats likely aren’t going to cut it. Splurge… go get some nice sweats, a clean undershirt and a haircut.
Seriously… this shit is more important than you know. Not because of what others will think, but because of how you will feel. Feeling is how you keep the story growing.
Anyway, most people don’t even know they are doing it, but this is what’s happening. The new story is taking shape and the more they live it… the more it becomes a way of life. once it becomes a way of lie… you find something else to work on.
This is why so many people tell you to create a vision board. The problem with just doing that is there is no new story to back it up.
We have stories about everything in our lives. All of these stories can be changed instantly, but you MUST also begin living it.
Here’s the kicker and that part where most people decide this isn’t for them. It can’t just be about making money, or getting out of debt, or losing 50lbs.
This has to be a story you live at all times of the day until it stops feeling like work. Once it becomes second nature… work on the next story you want to change.
This will take you to a place of self awareness which is the ONLY state you will ever truly make change from. The good news is that you don’t need to start creating hundreds of new stories. You simply need to change the main one.
So instead of buying product after product (not talking to online marketing peeps exclusively) find out what your story is going to be. If you have this story the excuses will fall away. So the thing that you used to struggle with are no longer and issue. Seriously things like looking on Google yourself instead of waiting for someone to tell you, or getting mad if they left it out.
When you realize your life is the story you tell yourself and that you are truly in control of it things will turn around almost over night. The fun part is when your new story starts clashing with the stories of those close to you 🙂
Often times your story will shock your partners story. Let the friction begin. Not knowing your story makes it hard to get the support of loved ones. Reason being, they have no idea what their story is either.
So instead of barfing up your goals and dreams on them all the time… try sharing your new story with your partner and tell them how they fit in and how you seem them in your story. Use settings, feelings and belief. Paint a 4k clear vision in their heads about your story. What you’ll find…
They will likely enjoy your vision for them and want the same story. When that happens EVERYTHING in life gets easier. It’s almost like the world begins working with you.
This will also open up the entire relationship to writing a story together and not trying to merge to aimless stories into one.
I’m telling you right now. This is the most important thing you can ever do if you want something in your life to change and change quickly. If you leave this out it WILL be a grind and you’ll ALWAYS feel like it’s an uphill battle!